Dealing with the death of a loved one is one of the most challenging experiences life can throw at us.

A year and a half ago today, on the 5th of May 2022 I lost my mom while I was abroad.

A surgery went wrong, and my mom died without me having the time to reach her.

She had a tumor in her intestine, and they did surgery to remove it, but the suture wasn’t strong enough.

So it opened causing her to have sepsis and then septic shock which was the cause of the heart failure.

It has been a whole rollercoaster of emotions for me…ultimately asking for mental health support and being diagnosed with the need for trauma therapy.

It’s a journey that’s unique to each individual and can take a lot of time and introspection to come to terms with.

In this blog post, I’d like to explore the themes of loss, grieving, and the process of learning to live without your mother.

Loss is a universal human experience, but it’s also deeply personal.

When we lose someone as significant as a parent, the pain can be particularly intense. It’s perfectly normal to feel a mix of emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion and even moments of numbness.

Grief doesn’t follow a linear path, and it’s important to remember that it’s okay to not have all the answers.

Grieving is a process that unfolds over time. It’s not something that you simply “get over.” Instead, it’s a journey of healing and self-discovery. In my case, it has been a year and a half, which is still relatively early in the grieving process.

During this time, I have experienced a wide range of emotions, and that’s entirely natural.

Grieving is not a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to the love and connection you had with your mother.

One of the challenges of losing a loved one is the feeling of emptiness and the void they leave behind. Your mother played a significant role in your life, and her absence can be acutely felt in everyday moments.

But it’s important to remember that while her physical presence may be gone, the love and memories you shared with her will always be a part of you.

Cherishing those memories and keeping her spirit alive through stories and shared experiences can be a comforting way to honor her legacy.

Learning to live without your mother is a journey of adaptation. It involves finding new ways to navigate life’s challenges and joys.

This doesn’t mean forgetting or replacing her; rather, it’s about finding a way to carry her memory with you as you continue to grow and evolve.

It’s also about seeking support from friends, family, or even professional therapists if needed.

Grief is not something you have to bear alone, and reaching out for help is a sign of strength.

In my case, I have various interests and activities that can serve as outlets for my emotions. Karate, for example, can be a powerful way to channel my feelings and maintain a sense of discipline and focus during this turbulent time.

My blog and content creation for social media can also serve as therapeutic outlets, allowing me to express my thoughts and emotions while connecting with others who may be going through similar experiences.

In conclusion, the journey of loss and grieving is a deeply personal one, and there’s no right or wrong way to go through it.

What’s important is that you allow yourself the time and space to heal, that you cherish the memories of your mother, and that you find ways to adapt and continue living a fulfilling life.

Your mother’s love and influence will always be a part of you, guiding you as you move forward.

Feel free to share your own experiences or seek support if needed.

I’m here and I will listen to you.